Saturday, February 27, 2010

The best sound EVER!!!

I LOVE to hear babies laughing. I think it is just the best sound in the world. It always puts a smile on my face. With this being said, you can only imagine how much I love to hear Harrison laugh. He can laugh at the craziest things! In the video, he is playing with his food, which I know I shouldn't encourage, but it was just too funny!

Are you sure God doesn't give you more than you can handle?

What a week! That's about all I can say! It started out on Monday and I didn't lose my pound. No big deal. I'm keeping at it! Ben came home from work on Monday and announced that we are no longer moving to VA, but now to Gulfport. Honestly, this is a much better move for our family. Not only are we 5 hours away from home instead of an airplane ride, but we can live a very comfortable lifestyle there. Ben will be driving a brand new bright yellow camero, if he can find a 2010. I won't have to work or maybe just work part time and we can buy a house. How exciting! Well Ben isn't excited. He REALLY wanted these orders to Virginia. He is starting to come around because he realized we can go to Auburn football games. At least he found one positive, right? Tuesday, Ben had his tonsils out. We thought they weren't going to do the surgery because of course on Monday he had a fever, but they decided to go ahead and do it. He really did well with it and came home that day. He got a week off work. Then, Friday morning he wakes up with a fever of 102, a horrible headache, and his chest was hurting. Back to the ER he goes! Ended up he had a migraine, but no infection, thank goodness. They gave him some medicine to help him sleep and he is feeling much better today. I just don't know how much more I can take...I'll figure it all out somehow. I always do! Here's a picture of Harrison to make you smile after reading all that.

2010...The Year of Babies!

No, I'm not having another baby in 2010! But, our family will have 3 new babies this year. That's right 3! How blessed are we? Ben's sister, Liz, is having a new baby in July. My brother and his wife are having one in September. My very close friend from Spain and her husband are expecting their first baby also in September. How exciting! I can't wait to find out the sexes of these babies so I can start buying! Surely one of them will be a girl! Congratulations to all 3 families! I love being an aunt and I can't wait to meet all 3!

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Boys will be boys...

It's kind of ironic that my last post was "Harrison's first trip to the dentist." This post will include his first trip to the ER. This weekend Harrison has become quite the toddler. Yes, it has been coming but this weekend was it. He is very brave and curious I guess like many other little guys his age. He decided this weekend to climb on things because it would surely benefit him in some way. Saturday he couldn't see what daddy was doing at the table so he decided to do this.

Pretty smart, right? On Monday he decided he needed to pull the shades on the window in my room so this is what he did. (Yes, he is wearing Christmas jammies because jammies for him are hard to come by and these still fit!)

I asked him how he was going to get down and he tried to jump. Yes, 14 months old and he thought about jumping. Monday evening he was playing in the bath tub and decided to stand up. He has been told probably about 4000 times NOT to stand up in the bath tub, but this was the time. He slipped and fell and chipped his 2 front teeth. He cried and cried. Once we got it to stop bleeding off to the ER we went. Here are some pics of him at the ER. I'm sure it's just the first of many!

I took him for his follow-up at the dentist this morning. They don't want to do anything to his tooth yet because they said it is probably very sore. In about 8 weeks, I'll take him back and they will have to smooth it out. Should be lots of fun! The dentist told me it's a good thing that it broke the tooth because if not, all the impact would go to his nerve and they would probably have to pull the tooth so it could've been much worse! Like the title says...boys will be boys! 8 more weeks until I'm stateside! Love to all!

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Harrison's First trip to the dentist

Today we ventured to the dentist. I've been practicing with him to say "ah" and show his teeth. Well it really didn't matter because when you scream at the top of your lungs, your teeth show anyways. The dentist said it was perfectly normal for him to react that way and that he probably would until he is 3. 3, really??? Harrison still only has 4 teeth and this is the main reason I went ahead and took him. I don't know if you know, but my teeth always have issues so I wanted to make sure there were more than 4 in there. He is getting 2 molars on the top, the bottom gums are swollen where his molars will be soon, and he is cutting 2 on the bottom. No wonder the little guy isn't sleeping well at night. But, the dentist said his teeth looked good and there were definitely more in there. Also a little random thing, but Ben and his mom both do not have the 2 teeth on either side of their front teeth. These on Harrison haven't tried to come thru and the dentist doesn't think Harrison has them either. He said it was no big deal but usually those come in before the bottom ones and he is getting the bottom ones now so we shall see. They won't do x-rays until he is 3 so we will just wait and see what happens. He did get a sticker even though he freaked out!

Monday, February 1, 2010

The Lives of Military Wives

14 Things we hate to hear....

1."Aren't you afraid that he'll be killed?"

(This one ranks in at number one on the "duh" list. Of course we're afraid. We're terrified. The thought always lingers at the backs of our minds ---but thanks brilliant, you just brought it back to the front. Maybe next you can go ask someone with cancer if they're scared of dying.)

2. "I don't know how you manage. I don't think I could do it."

(This is intended to be a compliment. Though, its just a little annoying. Here's why: it's not like all of us military wives have been dreaming since childhood of the day we'd get to be anxious single moms who carry cell phones with us to the bathroom and in the shower. We're not made of some mysterious matter that makes us more capable, we just got asked to take on a challenging job. So we rose to the challenge and found the strength to make sacrifices.)

3. "At least he's not in Iraq."

(This is the number one most annoying comment for those whose husbands are in Afghanistan. What do they think is happening in Afghanistan? An international game of golf?)

4. "Do you think he'll get to come home for Christmas/anniversary/birthday/birth of a child/wedding/family reunion, etc?"

(Don't you watch the news? No! They don't get to come home for any of these things. Please don't ask again.)

5. "What are you going to do to keep yourself busy while he's gone?"

(Short answer: Try to keep my sanity. Maybe there's a military wife out there who gets bored when her husband leaves, but I have yet to meet her. For the rest of us, those with and without children, we find ourselves having to be two people. That keeps us plenty busy. We do get lonely, but we don't get bored. Drinking massive amounts of wine always helps keep me busy.)

6. "How much longer does he have until he can get out?"

(This one is annoying to many of us whether our husbands are deployed or not. Many of our husbands aren't counting down the days until they "can" get out. Many of them keep signing back up again and again because they actually love what they do or they VOLUNTEER AGAIN and AGAIN to go back to Iraq b/c there is work that needs to be done.)

7. "This deployment shouldn't be so bad, now that you're used to it."

(Sure, we do learn coping skills and its true the more deployments you've gone through, but it never gets easier. And we figure out ways to make life go smoother while the guys are gone. But it never gets "easy" and the bullets and bombs don't skip over our guys just because they've been there before. The worry never goes away.)

8. "My husband had to go to Europe for business once for three weeks. I totally know what you're going through."

(This one is similar to number two. Do not equate your husband's three week trip to London/Omaha/Tokyo/etc. with a 12-15 month or more deployment to a war zone. Aside from the obvious time difference, nobody shot at your husband or tried to blow him up with an I.E.D., your husband could call home pretty much any time he wanted to, he flew comfortably on a commercial plane, slept between crisp white sheets and ate well, paying for everything with an expense account. There is no comparison. We do not feel bonded to you in the slightest because of this comment and, if anything, we probably resent you a bit for it. Comparing a 12 month combat deployment to a few weeks business trip is like comparing a ****ty Hyundai Excel with a Mercedes convertible.)

9. "Wow you must miss him?"

(This one also gets another big "duh". Of course we miss our men. There are some wives who do not and they're now divorced.)

10. "Where is he exactly? Where is that?"

(I don't expect non-military folks to be able to find Anbar Province on a map, but they should know by now that it's in Iraq. Likewise, know that Kabul and Kandahar are in Afghanistan. Know that Muqtada al Sadr is the insurgent leader of the Mahdi Army in Iraq and that Sadr City is his home area. Know that Iran is a major threat to our country and that it is located between Afghanistan and Iraq. Our country has been at war in Afghanistan for seven years and at war in Iraq for five years. These basic facts are not secrets, they're on the news every night and in the papers every day ---and on maps everywhere.)

11. "Well, he signed up for it, so it's his own fault whatever happens over there.

(Yes, ignorant, he did sign up. Each and every day he protects your right to make stupid comments like that. He didn't sign up and ask to be hit by anything, he signed up to protect his country. Oh, and by the way, he asked me to tell you that "You're welcome." He's still fighting for your freedom.)

12. "Don't you miss sex? I couldn't do it!"

(Hmmm, no, I don't miss sex. I'm a robot. Seriously...military spouses learn quickly that our relationships must be founded on something greater than sex. We learn to appreciate the important things, like simply hearing their voices, seeing their faces, being able to have dinner together every night. And the hard truth is, most relationships probably couldn't withstand 12 months of sex deprivation.)

13. "Well in my opinion....."

(Stop right there. Yo, I didn't ask for you your personal political opinions. Hey, I love a heated political debate, but not in the grocery store, not in Jamba Juice, not at Nordstrom, not in a bar when I'm out with my girls trying to forget the war, and CERTAINLY NOT AT WORK. We tell co-workers about deployments so when we have to spend lunch hours running doing errands and taking care of the house, dog, and kids, they have an understanding. We do not tell co-workers and colleagues because we are giving an invitation to ramble about politics or because we so eagerly want to hear how much they hate the President, esp. while we're trying to heat up our lean cuisines in the crappy office microwaves.)

last but not least....

14. "OH, that's horrible...I'm so sorry!"

(He's doing his job. Don't be sorry. Be appreciative and please take a moment out of your comfortable American lives to realize that our soldiers fight the wars abroad so those wars stay abroad.)

I got this from another military wife. It's so true and accurate of what goes on when our husbands deploy. While living in Spain, Ben has been with us and I'm thankful that Ben was here when Harrison was born and has got to spend the first year with him. This is very rare!!! Ben will deploy when we move to Virginia. It will be difficult for everyone and the most difficult for Harrison, but it's our life! It's a crazy life, but it's our life!